4 Positive Parenting Tips
Positive reinforcement involves recognizing your child’s good behavior with verbal praise, loving touches, or other tangible rewards. You want to build your child up by highlighting all of the good things they do on a daily basis. You don’t want to only give your child feedback when they have done something wrong.
When giving positive reinforcement, it’s good to make eye contact, say the good thing they have done, and even mention how it made you feel. For example, instead of just using the praise, “I’m so proud of you!”, you can try saying, “You cleaned up all of your toys on your own, good job! You make so feel so proud”. You can even top it off with a hug and/or their favorite snack.
Your Child vs. Their Behavior
All children go through moments where they do not act like themselves. Your normally sweet and gentle child is now biting friends at school, or fighting with their sibling. When things like this arise, be sure to speak to who you know your child is versus the behavior they are exhibiting.
You can start by telling your child that you know they are a kind person who is fun to play with and that the behavior they are showing doesn’t represent who you know they are as a person.
Speak calmly and lead with empathy, recognizing that they have feelings too. Use positive language and avoid using violent language or threats.
Does your child have a hard time following your directions? Even the most well-behaved child can have a hard time listening to their parent’s requests. It can become frustrating when you have to repeat yourself multiple times, but be sure to keep your demeanor calm.
Focusing on giving directions positively versus negatively can make all the difference. For example, instead of saying, “Stop yelling” you can say, “Use your little voice, please.” Or, instead of saying, “Shut up”, you can say, “It’s quiet time.”
Parenting is hard and it doesn’t come with a handbook. It can be an emotional rollercoaster of joys and happiness, but also frustration and anxiety. If you ever get to a point where you lose your temper or say something you regret to your little one, a simple “I’m sorry” goes a long way. This shows your child that parents aren’t perfect and that developing a happy and healthy relationship with them is your #1 priority.
Ready to Learn More?
At Champions, Our Positive Parenting & Partnership (P3) program helps parents learn the skills to be the best parent they can be! The program has a free 8-week workshop to help parents gain the tools, skills, and confidence they need to improve their family relationships, like encouraging positive behavior, managing problem behavior, improving communication, and resolving conflicts. To learn more and sign up, visit: https://cfctb.org/program/positive-parenting-partnership/
If you’re looking for more positive parenting tips, check out our other blogs below:
3 Positive Parenting Tips
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